Will He Ever Make Commitment? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

Unlock commitment clues by evaluating your partner's emotional well-being, love expressions, willingness to grow, and shared visions for a lasting relationship.

Will He Ever Make Commitment?                               
6 Questions to Ask Yourself

Will he ever make a decision? This is a question that many women ask themselves repeatedly. After receiving lukewarm love from guys who flee when the prospect of a shared future is mentioned, it's natural to wonder what's really going on. Will he ever say yes to me? In fact, the good news is that there are six questions you should ask yourself to help you figure out the answer!

Will He Ever Make a Commitment? Is he psychologically healthier now?

It is preferable to date men who are healthier and more normal. These are thoughtful, good guys who don't like to sabotage themselves. Who know exactly what they want and go after it. Who stick with you even when things get difficult. The guys who are aware of and working on their self-sabotaging patterns. If you get into a fight, a healthy man will try to resolve it, even if he becomes angry along the way. He does not flee or remain enraged. These are the men who can truly fall in love with you. Is your current boyfriend as fit as this? If this is the case, it is a very good sign!

Will He Ever Make a Commitment? Question #2: Does he have faith in love?

Look for clues in your boyfriend's comments about the possibility of true love, women in general, and his previous relationships. Take a look between the lines: What do you notice that reveals his thoughts on the future of a long-term relationship or marriage? What does he say about other couples? Is he cynical because a friend is getting married? Is he describing his married friends as being trapped in some way? Is he saying it takes three to four years to know if someone is ready to be with someone? Has he actually stated that love never lasts?

If his parents remained married, how does he describe their relationship? If they divorced, did they successfully remarry? Is he aware of any role models who have demonstrated what a good marriage looks like? If he talks positively about love, this is another indication of his ability to commit.

Will He Ever Make a Commitment? Is he madly in love with you?

This is an important sign, but it appears after about six months of dating. This is because a guy may seem crazy about you in the first few months, but he doesn't really know you. And you haven't spent a lot of time together. So, after about six months together, does your guy truly understand how unique and amazing you are? Is he truly falling deeper in love with you and only you over time?

Is it he:

  • I'm looking forward to seeing you.
  • I'm hesitant to leave you.
  • Interested in you and your life Wants to help you Is verbally and physically affectionate Wants to have sexual relations with you
  • Acts as if you are very special; does not want to date others.
  • Says he loves you and talks about a future together

If you can answer "yes" to at least four of the questions above, he might eventually commit to you.

Will He Ever Make a Commitment? Question #4: Is he eager to learn?

Determine whether or not your boyfriend is willing to grow and work on his issues. Is he introspective? In a development program? Are you being coached or in therapy? These are excellent indicators that he is working on himself. Can he tell you what went wrong in his previous relationship? If a guy is working on himself and is crazy about you, he could make an excellent partner. Nobody is perfect. But then again, neither are you. So the question is, how much does this man want love, specifically love with you, in his life? And what is he willing to do or change in order to have that unique, long-lasting experience? He does he:

Consider suggestions or advice.

  • Apologize and make amends for any wrongdoing in the relationship.
  • Discuss himself in a thoughtful, self-reflective manner.
  • Demonstrate a willingness to participate in therapy or life coaching.
  • Take courses in personal development.
  • Pray or meditate
  • Take part in a 12-step program or a men's group.

If you can say "yes" to at least two of the questions above, he may eventually commit to you.

Will He Ever Make a Commitment? Question # 5: Is he ready to commit?

Examine whether your boyfriend is truly at a point in his life where he is ready to commit. Inquire about his previous relationships with him. What did his most recent ex have to say about him? What she complained about might have a grain of truth to it! Make a mental note of any complaints about being distant or unwilling to take the next step of commitment together. Is your boyfriend successful and working in a career he enjoys, as opposed to being unemployed or in graduate school? This means he can feel good about supporting you and contributing to a future family life together. These are all good indicators that he will eventually commit to you.

Most importantly, is your boyfriend involved with anyone else? Or are you even married? This is extremely significant! Remember that if he is involved with someone else, it is usually best to let him go. Regardless of what he says about eventually abandoning the other woman!

Will He Ever Make a Commitment? Is he in sync with you, your values, and your vision for the future?

For example, does he express a desire for children (if you desire them)? Does he share your objectives and values? Is he a follower of your religion? Does he have the same level of integrity and concern for others that you do? These are excellent indicators that he will eventually commit. Is he geographically appealing? Even though it is possible, it is usually more difficult to have a long-term commitment if he lives a long distance away from you.

So there you have it, six questions to ask yourself to help you figure out the answer to the question, Will He Ever Commit? I hope that as you read this blog, you had many Aha moments of understanding and clarity about the patterns that lead to commitment or non-commitment. In fact, I hope you've gained enough knowledge to be able to quickly avoid guys who are DUDs (Definitely Unworkable Dudes). Or from truly dead-end or even destructive relationships. You can tell when it's time to stay and work on the relationship, giving it your all. Or when you should cut your losses and leave.

Remember, even if the current guy isn't the One, there are plenty of great guys out there who can give you the committed, long-lasting passionate love you desire and deserve!