Self-Awareness is Crucial for Lasting Romantic Relationships

Being self-aware is the best gift you can give yourself, especially if you’re looking to enter a romantic relationship. It’s the foundation for having a healthy relationship with both yourself and your partner.

For many of us Indians, self-awareness tends to come much later in our lives because we grow up in an environment that thrives on comparisons. We're always trying to prove we're better than our neighbour or, as the joke goes, better than Sharmaji's son or daughter—whether academically, professionally, financially, or even in the age we get married. And it doesn’t stop there. When Sharmaji's kids become parents, we feel the pressure to follow suit. This constant comparison needs to stop. Amidst this chaos, there’s no room for self-awareness, which then fuels overthinking, anxiety, the need for constant validation, and gender biases. These distractions pull us away from finding a partner with whom we can see a future and push us towards what others think is best for us.

Investing in self-awareness requires time and effort, and it often takes a backseat as we grow older because other aspects of life take priority. However, it's crucial to consciously make time to get to know yourself better.

But here's the thing: self-awareness is crucial not just when entering a relationship but also as we navigate through various life stages, but also when you're single and while you're in a relationship. Prioritizing self-awareness aids in fostering healthy relationship with those around us.

5 Tips that may help in bringing about self- awareness

1.       Observe, Listen, Understand: These are essentials of communication that are often overlooked as most of us tend to focus on Speaking.

2.       Be Open to Feedback: Whether constructive or not, it’s important to reflect on why certain opinions about you exist.

3.       Don’t Blame the Past: If you're financially independent, have access to the basics, you definitely are a thinking person. Use this power to let go of past poor experiences and live for now and the future. Past is for a reason.

 4.       Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: Everyone is different. The sooner you understand this, the better. Even couples who seem inseparable are different individuals with their own mannerisms and thought processes. What works for someone else may not work for you, and vice versa, so focus on yourself.

 5.       Build a Growth Mindset: This leads to a positive mindset, which is essential for a fulfilling romantic relationship. Be open to unlearn old habits and learn new ones.

 Remember, self-awareness isn’t just a tool for finding a partner—it’s a way to ensure that when you do, the relationship is healthy and fulfilling.

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