How to find a partner online

Finding your long-term partner online – here are simple steps to make the process more manageable and successful.

Step #1 – Understand yourself

First, make a note of what it is you seek in a partner. What are your must-haves and deal-breakers? What are your wants and preferences? For example, do you wish them to be a provider, caregiver, or an equal partner. Doing this will help you narrow down your search and save you time in the long run.

Next, take an honest inventory of yourself. What can you bring to the table in a relationship? What are your good qualities and what are your areas of improvement? Being self-aware is an important step in finding a compatible partner.

Step #2 – Creating a list of negotiables and non-negotiables is a good place to start

If you're serious about finding a partner online, there are a few things you need to do to make sure you find the best possible match. First, you need to create a list of negotiating and non-negotiables. What are your must-haves and deal-breakers? Be honest with yourself and make sure you're being realistic.

You need to answer some tough questions about what you're looking for. For example:

Are you okay with someone who lives with their parents

What kind of personality traits are you looking for?

What about physical traits?

Are you okay with being the primary financial provider?

These and more are important question to ask yourself, as it can be a deal-breaker for some people.

Once you have created an exhaustive list, you can start to work towards preferably keeping the negotiable list longer. For example, height, colour of complexion, or someone being married before could be in the negotiable bucket, while being kind, empathetic could be in the non-negotiable list.

Doing this helps you save time giving you clarity on your search.

Step #3 Be a part of one or two online matchmaking service providers where its important you

1) When you’re creating your profile, take your time and be honest about who you are and what you’re looking for. Sharing accurate information about yourself will help you find a partner who’s a good fit for you.

2) Share photographs of how you look now, the most recent.

3) Spend minimum 30 minutes per platform daily.

4) Go beyond photographs, read what has been written and then decide if you wish to favourite/ shortlist or let it pass or cross it for now.

5) Fancy a profile, initiate a chat conversation which goes beyond Hi/ Hello/ Whatsupp…

6) If the text chat goes well, ask for a video call and if this goes well ask for a physical meeting. If both live in the same country, you should ideally meet within 2-3 weeks and if overseas then in about 45 days.

It’s important to not be fooled thinking you are in for something long-term because there is intimacy. Healthy communication is key to any relationship, and it’s important to be honest with yourself about what you want. do fun things, do mundane things together. This will help you know each other better and also make sure that the person is really interested in you.

Thoughts!!! If you have other views and do share on info(at)andwemet(dot)com what worked for you when you set out to look for your life partner.