Are Singles in your community Real or Verified?

It’s a well-documented fact that most online dating services unfortunately have 40-50% fake profiles, if not more. "Fake" is defined as not sharing real information, including appearance, profession, education, and relationship status.

You would agree that there is no guarantee of someone's authenticity, even when introduced offline through a known or unknown source. This often leads to mistrust and fear when looking to find your person. However, these concerns can be mitigated by following these suggestions as you get to know someone new, whether through an introduction on andwemet or otherwise:

1. Take your time: Engage in at least 3-5 meaningful interactions that involve both conversation and observation. This will help you decide whether to pursue knowing the individual or to move on.
2. Meet their people: Once comfortable and ready to invest further, regardless of how you were introduced, ask to meet their close friends or confidants. You learn a lot about a person from the company they keep, which also shows how interested they are about this relationship.
3. Introduce them to your confidants: Share your new connection with your own trusted friends or family members. Their feedback helps.
4. Avoid rushing emotions: Many claim to be in love as they interact the 3rd time. While it’s beautiful to be in love, take it slow and invest in this emotion wholeheartedly once you’re confident about the person.
5. Don’t believe everything you read on social media: People can and do lie about their background, even on platforms like LinkedIn. This isn't about being constantly on guard but being cautious.

In the current andwemet singles community on WhatsApp for 30s & beyond, we don’t follow a strict verification process, but we do ensure all interactions are ticketed, indicating some level of seriousness and ownership. With our upcoming app, we will ask for KYC verification, which will be deleted once the individual joins the community.

Keep in mind that all service providers aim to maintain the authenticity of their platforms, but it is ultimately up to you to be mindful. We are contemplating starting a background check service to vet the information shared by individuals on andwemet. Let us know on info(at)andwemet.com what you think about this idea and if there’s anything else we can do.